281: How to Overcome Not Feeling Good Enough or Less Than


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Episode Summary

Comparison is one of the ego’s favorite traps.

When we compare ourselves to others, we often begin making up stories about who they are, what they have, and what that means about us. Before we know it, we are looking at ourselves through a judgmental lens and feeling inferior, less than, or not good enough.

In this solo episode, I’m talking about how comparison affects our self-worth and what we can do when feelings of inferiority show up. These feelings can be so painful that many of us want to run from them, silence them, numb them, or push them away. But when we shove those beliefs into the subconscious, they only gain more power.

Instead, we have to bring consciousness to them. From the Adult Chair, we can look at these feelings with compassion, work with the parts of us that feel less than, and begin transforming those old beliefs into truth.

In this episode, I share five simple tools to help you stop comparing, build self-worth, practice radical acceptance, and move from feeling inferior to feeling enough. This work is not complicated, but it does take intention, awareness, and a willingness to turn toward yourself with love.

You are already enough, and I hope these tools help you begin to feel that truth from the inside out.

Key Takeaways:

  • Comparison is one of the ego’s favorite traps

  • When we compare ourselves to others, we often create stories that are not rooted in truth

  • Comparison can lead to feelings of inferiority, low self-worth, and feeling less than

  • Running from painful feelings or numbing them out does not heal them

  • Pushing negative beliefs into the subconscious gives them more power

  • Healing begins when we bring consciousness to the places where we feel inferior

  • Radical acceptance helps us stop fighting who we are and begin meeting ourselves with truth

  • Parts work can help us connect with the part of us that feels less than or not good enough

  • Affirmations can support us in replacing old beliefs with new truths

  • Self-worth grows when we choose to work with our feelings instead of abandoning ourselves

  • From the Adult Chair, we can witness the ego’s traps and choose a new way forward

Comparison and Self-Worth

Comparison happens when we look outside of ourselves and measure our worth against someone else’s life, appearance, success, relationships, gifts, or path. When we do this, we often forget that we are only seeing a small part of someone else’s story, and then we use that story to judge ourselves.

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